I get it.

I was in a relationship that started out as the too-good-to-be-true-passion-fed-fairytale with the bad boy who promised me he was reformed.

He was SO captivated by me.

He told me I was the most beautiful woman he'd ever seen.

He promised me I'd be his wife.

The moon to his sun, the Queen to his King... I'd never experienced someone who wanted me so badly.

I felt like I had finally met my soulmate.

This euphoria was mind-blowing, the highs were fucking high, the sex was intense, and I was addicted to his infatuation.

I was floating in my dream come true.

But then, it starting turning into a slow burn of confusion + hopelessness...

It was in this relationship that I started to deeply believe that something was wrong with me and I was unlovable, more than I ever had before.

Our relationship became tense and I knew deep down I wasn’t happy.

But I also kept telling myself that he had so much potential and he wasn’t 100% bad.

After all, I’d SEEN him be curious about my feelings, dripping with desire for only me, and felt the specialness that came from all our exciting trips — it had to be the real him!

But, that reality somehow floated further + further away...

We fought.
I walked on eggshells.
And I felt like I was the toxic one, always causing problems.

I was anxious, on edge, and totally afraid to speak up to try to find resolve.

I knew my light was slowly being sucked from my soul, yet it took me years to finally see that I had to leave.

Saying I was terrified would be an understatement.

I fought + justified the red flags with some goddamn tenacity until I couldn’t unsee what I finally allowed myself to see.

And it was ironic to me that it was detaching myself from him that gave me the freedom and peace that I was so desperately craving.

It opened space for me to slowly start to understand who the hell I was… outside of a man.

And let’s be clear:

Waking up at 8am on a Saturday morning realizing I had a full day ahead of me filled with just ME was consistently followed by a panic attack for A WHILE because I didn't know what the hell to do with myself by myself for that much damn time.

But, I sat with it. 

(When all I wanted to do was crawl out of my skin!)

I learned what I valued, needed + wanted, started setting REAL boundaries, found the confidence to put myself first (guilt-free), found peace, and felt reenergized + excited about life again.

Piece by piece, my highest self was being beckoned forward and through repeatedly holding true to myself, she reemerged. 

I can make goofy sounds while puttering in the kitchen, feel at ease in the ghastly worn-to-shit sweatpants I’d normally hide from the world, and ugly cry in front of him without second thought.

He is an equal partner, mature, and emotionally available, and I can bring any feeling or need to him 100% sure that he wants to hear it. Because he loves me and cares about my experience.

We’re building a life together, each putting in the work, brick by brick, joy by joy, tear by tear.

And THAT shit? Priceless.

It is all the things that my past self would have smacked me in the face for if I told her, "It exists, Bre! It exists!" with unwavering excitement.

But let’s not get it twisted… I had to do THE WORK to go from the bad boy shit show to the real love encore.

That's why I'm so proud of other women doing the same in Becoming.

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Taking Inventory

Here you will learn the invaluable and easy-to-use skill of Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT tapping) which you will use throughout this program to regulate your nervous system as you shift your deep rooted patterns and learn trust your intuition. I will also help you consciously and compassionately move out of Potential Land (aka the fantasy place of nostalgia + hope) and better identify where you are right in the here and now. From this place of clarity, calm and centeredness you will see where you've been stuck and begin to heal and reclaim your vibrancy.

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Reveal Who You Are, What You Want + Learn How to Protect It

Here we dive into what makes you, YOU. You will discover your truest values, needs, and wants AND why this essence is so important to protect. You will learn what boundaries are, why you have had such a hard time setting them, and how to compassionately set & hold them (without guilt) to protect your peace and stop the energy leaks that are draining you.

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Understanding Codependency + Why We Attract Chaos

Codependency is often a huge crack in the foundation of an unhealthy relationship. This element will help you learn what codependency is, how to disrupt your own codependent tendencies, as well as shift entire codependent relationships so you can say "Adios!" to rescuing people forever. We dive into why chaotic relationships can feel so damn addicting, discover the origin wounding that keeps you hooked into this familiar dynamic, and integrate the stuck energy that is creating your limiting beliefs - therefore shifting your reality.

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Shame, Grief, Fear + The Stories We Tell Ourselves

We are expert storytellers. It is how we make sense of our experiences and our lives. But so often, these stories were adopted from our wounding, and we forget to revisit them as we get older to assess if they are still serving our story. Here, I will help you regain clarity and rewrite your limiting beliefs by embodying a new narrative. This process will help ignite your intuition, tend to your fears and begin to open space for you to rebuild trust within yourself. And, because there is never a beginning without an ending, we will navigate the grief that surfaces as we begin to let go of ways of being that are no longer serving our story.

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Take Your Power Back + Turn Toward Healthy Relationships

As we move through the vital elements of the TRUST Method, you will be able to clarify your past ways of being that are no longer aligned with your higher self. To help you release these energies from a place of love and honor, you will experience a Releasing Ceremony which will open space for you to energetically move forward into your truest expression of self.

We will also identify the green flags of a healthy relationship, how to shift your vibration to attract conscious and respectful partners, and how to begin dating again so you feel confident in your ability to know a good relationship when you feel one.